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I went through an abortion recently. It was a product of rape, although I am pro-choice no matter what the situation. I recently asked some questions on the pregnancy forum involving it, and well, got torn to pieces. Luckily I’m a strong woman and it didn’t bother me….but I’ve seen several posts from young girls going through similar situations…..and wow….people don’t have hearts…I mean these girls are on here, many without support in their personal lives…..looking for answers, support, whatever and people just sit there and tell them how they’re going to hell and that they;re murderers. It breaks my heart. I can’t even imagine what they’re going through, already scared about their decision, and then hearing that. I understand that we’re on a public site, and they’re leaving themselves open to whatever any jackass has the time to type…but c’mon
Only to, I did not lie. I was embarissed about being raped and was contemplating this child, despite the cirumstances of it’s conception, so I made up the stuff about my boyfriend b/c I didnt really feel like talking about my rape at that point.
What doesnt make sense? Yes I do have a bf and I have for a long time…but I was raped, I was raped by an ex bf that called me and told me he had somet things of mine…when I went there…well I’ll leave it at that. The reason I know it isn’t my current bf’s is b/c I haven’t had sex with him in over three months.

That an unborn baby is just a "mass of cells", then tell me this: AFTER 8 weeks EVERY organ needed to live is functioning and working just as someone who is born. Is there some sort of magical event that "turns the baby on" the second it hits daylight as opposed to its state of being 1 week earlier?

For all you pro-choicers out there – I can [somewhat] see your views on rape abortion… but just because someone gets an unexpected/underaged pregnancy its okay to kill the LIVING (yes, it is living, in the first 8 hours of conception the HEART cells are beating) zygote? WHy? Just give me something to begin to base a justification of your thinking on… becuase it just does not cross my mind to ever except that. Not to mention the years of thinking that you killed an unborn baby… i just dont get it.

Feel free to give me any insight of your views on any-stage / any-reason abortion.

Thanks… oh an FYI this is for a paper im writing so try to keep the answers somewhat coherant.

So I have a pretty bad case of post traumatic stress disorder do to several years of rape. But lately, I have been hearing his voice and seeing him. Is this normal after the rape has stopped? It went on from ages 6 and a half to 13. And i’m almost now 15. But i really don’t know what to do. He is now in custody, and the trial is set and I have to testify in September. But I feel like everywhere I turn he’s there. Is there anyone I could talk to that could understand? Or that relates? I feel like i’m going insane. I do see my councilor regularly, but im afraid that if I tell her she’ll make me go to one of those insane asylums.
What do I do?
*I also do have constant nightmares and anxiety attacks, and yes she is aware of those, i’m also on anti-anxiety’s and anti depressants.

If anyone knows somewhere I can register my view as anti-abortion, please let me know.

There are no excuses for murder in this day & age. Mental health is a stupid excuse, my mental health suffers from it going on. If your life is physically in danger IE cancer r only excuse. As some1 who has been raped. I know rape is no excuse. If u face this, u know it can lead 2 pregnancy & take the morning after pill straight away, if u do not want 2 get pregnant. 2 stop conception from happening. I am peed off @ people claiming rape & u know they weren’t.

And people claiming a child will ruin their life. What they mean is whoa is me, I won’t b able to afford that jacuzzi I had my eye on. If your bf leaves u, who cares, your child won’t. Two parents does not equal happy child, believe me, I know.

To protect a child being born ill & suffering! Doctors make mistakes, they r not Gods. + people can surprise u, its instinct to want to survive. Drugs after full gestation can take away pain.

I had a rape pregnancy. The pro-life movement berates pro-choicers for emphasizing rape and incest for being rare, but even if it is, that is no excuse for ignoring it. It happened to ME. It HAPPENS. I’ve heard pro-lifers argue that the child shouldn’t be punished, it should be a blessing – something positive coming from something negative. I wouldn’t think anyone who’s been in my situation says anything like that. It is important to have a choice and to reassure the women who need them, NOT call them selfish. We need this option so we don’t feel like we’re getting raped again every day for nine months.

At the time, I didn’t tell anyone about the rape when I was seventeen. I’d never had a boyfriend or girlfriend, never been kissed, and never much cared to. Academics were a priority, and I’ll admit, I was fairly weird and antisocial. When this guy started talking to me at a concert about obscure post-punk acts, my excitement had more to do with the topic than him. It was annoying when he keep trying to talk during the songs as well. Once he tried to brush my hair behind my ear, I cringed and moved to the other side of the stage. I didn’t look back. I just didn’t think. Back then, I always parked out of the way to avoid steep parking fees and was preoccupied with fear that my car was towed. I didn’t notice him follow me out of the venue and the two blocks to my car. My switchblade and pepper spray were inside the armrest, behind locked doors. He managed to hold his jacket over my head on the ground, and I was scared I’d be killed, too. I couldn’t pry it off my face and hold my skirt down and push him at the same time. I didn’t bother to chase him when he ran off afterwards. Even now, I’m just as angry with myself as him for not being able to fight him off (which my therapist told me isn’t right, but it’s how I feel). The rare chance of finding this stranger didn’t seem worth it for the aftermath hassle of my overbearing parents on their assaulted child. The next morning I took a bath as hot as I could stand and some vitamin C. A few weeks later I had a light period, not thinking anything of it with my random cycle. When it didn’t come the month after, I didn’t quite believe I needed the pregnancy test I went out and bought, but it was positive. I never thought I’d pa nic again as much as I had the night of the rape. I just stared. And stared. And suddenly couldn’t catch my breath.

I never, ever wanted children in the first place. Luckily, I was raised informed of my options. I made an apointment with a woman at a Planned Parenthood clinic for a medical pregnancy test, though my voice was so oddly cool on the line she acted like she didn’t understand what I was driving over for. It was half an hour from my house. I think I told my parents I was working an extra shift or something. And sure enough, pregnant. The doctor or technician gently asked if I wanted to discuss alternatives to abortion but my mind was already made up. They didn’t perform abortions at the location I had my testing, so it was another two weeks before I could get the procedure.

Kind as the staff were, I had to wait an hour before going in. I’m sure everyone in the waiting room off to the side were in the same situation, staring at magazine pages longer than necessary, hugging coats to our chest, trying not to jiggling our legs too much and give away our anxiety. It hurt in a way that mattered after; the pain felt like closure.

I didn’t miss the fetus at all and don’t blame myself. It was never a baby, it was an unwanted souvenir. What if I gave the baby up for adoption, knowing nothing of its conception? And violence, if not sexual violence, was hereditary? Why should I let my rapist promote his bloodline? Why should I have to go through seven months on top of the seven weeks I spent hosting the fetus, remember each awful minute of the rape? I went into therapy after college but I’m just an angry person. I hated the fetus. I wasn’t in any frame of mind to accept it as my child. It was always his. I can’t fathom how anyone would force motherhood on someone in this situation because they don’t want to make exceptions to their own morality. I’m pretty sure I would’ve killed myself if forced to carry it to term. Gratefully, that was never an issue. I had a very positive experience with the clinic who tried to be so understanding of a situation I couldn’t really talk about. They even gave me the number to the county health and services board to find an affordable psychologist.
I really want to know who else had to face this. I’m sick of all reading all this nonsense on Yahoo Answers from people who never dealt with it. I’d really like to hear from the women who might’ve kept their babies, or given them up for adoption, and how you feel now.
Well, I had to, to share my story for people who are curious and haven’t experienced it.
Thank you to those who shared their stories. I’m sorry if anyone hassles you because of it. I don’t blame anyone who kept theirs just as I wouldn’t want anyone to blame me for aborting it. (Honestly, I would have an abortion even if it wasn’t rape.)

Has anyone heard of this new anti-rape condom for women called Rapex? You insert it into your… area and when the rapist attempts to "intrude" his dangly parts get mutilated by a series of sharp pointy objects hidden in the device. He is basically forced to go to the hospital immediately in order to save his manhood from permanent destruction, like he would know this. Oh and in case you are wondering, it is not possible to remove the device by hand, you have to use some other device to remove it so unless he has one hes SOL heh

Any woman who wears this is a complete MORON! if some guy was trying to rape you and got his junk mangled in that thing he would murder you. Congratulations you didnt get raped but you got your throat slit. BRILLIANT! I cant wait till someone files a multi million dollar lawsuit against the braindead morons who come up with this crap. Women, do yourselves a favor and buy a can of pepper spray

Sorry if I offended anyone but this product makes me very angry
I think you all completely misunderstood me, my meaning was that the rapist will kill the woman, then the parents of the victim will probably end up sueing the company because it got their child killed. And I am not considering taking up rape as a hobby you imbecile with a defective brain, go play in traffic.