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I have people that I talk to, however, they are not really friends. They are just people at school I talk to. I don’t have any one close to except my mother, and at age 19 I would like to have someone my own age.

There were these girls I talked to in class. We all met each other one the same day. However the other two went to go hang out and I wasn’t even invited. I don’t know if there is something about my personality that makes it so difficult for me to connect to other people or for people to connect with me. I am shy which may make me seem uninterested, but I am. I was advised to start initiating conversations/relationships more, but it is difficult.

I had to be put on anti-depressants for this, but I don’t want to use medication, so I stopped…

Perhaps it is minor, but it bothers me very much. I would like someone where I can be there for them and they can be there for me. Like a sister or brother.

Any advice?

A little long, but PLEASE help me out here!

Hello, a little background information:

I’m an 18 year old male living with parents and a sister. I lift weights and exercise daily, watch what I eat and I am very conscious of my physical health. I have a variety of friends, and I’m out almost every night with them.

When I was 12 I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety. I received treatment and medication until about the age of 16-17 when I decided to stop taking my anti-depressants. I had a good couple of years, until early-mid 08.

I suffered through a difficult break up in May, shortly after my dog passed away. These were two events that I found nearly impossible to cope with at once- but I managed. However, ever since then, I have had terrible derealization and depersonalization symptoms.

Now I realize that reality is still intact, however it feels like I am no longer a part of it. I can still feel physical contact, laugh, make jokes, carry fluent conversations, hold a job, exercise and maintain relationships, but I still don’t feel like any of it is actually happening.

I’ve asked my shrink about this before and he told me to cut back on the stimulants, as they perpetuate the symptoms of anxiety. I still have yet to completely stop using them due to my high level of physical activity.

Er, back to the question: Are my feelings of derealization/depersonalization signs of an oncoming psychosis, or am I freaking out about it and making it worse?

My symptoms lately have been:

Rapid/Weird thoughts at night
Insomnia
Mood swings
Derealization
Depersonalization
Inability to concentrate (not often)
Flat expression(usually only to strangers at work)
Slight short-term memory impairment
Irrational fears
Panic attacks
Depression

am I about to go crazy? do those who are developing schizophrenia realize they are becoming ill like I am?

Somebody please help and put my mind to rest.
Oh, and I’ve never heard voices, seen things, had delusions or experienced any other sign of psychosis.

From a man’s perspective, I will tell what makes a woman beautiful. A good posture. White teeth and a pleasant smile. Combed hair in a style that is flattering to her face. A warm, friendly and pleasant personality. Make-up that is soft and not overpowering. Good hygiene. Clothing that is flattering to her figure – preferably in pastel colors. Forget grey, black and denim. Walk with grace and dignity, not like a truck drive. Order wine or a gin and tonic, not beer. Never drink from a can or bottle. Do not wear dark colored lipstick. Speak well — do not dominate conversations. Laugh pleasantly, not like a donkey. Learn when to be modest and when to be sexy. While a great figure is an attracting feature, it is not as important as the ones I have listed here. You can be too fat or too skinny; however, this is something everyone can do something about, just work on it. Intelligence, self-confidence and a positive attitude about life.
Items I forgot: never, never wear a sweatshirt or tee shirt (with funny drawings, etc.) to anything other than a picnic or day at the beach!
Yes, I am married. I married the first runner up in a Miss Michigan contest. Won’t tell you which year. She is all and more than I described and is more beautiful – inside and out – than the winner. We’ve been married many years.

I will add a little bit more info. Since I have survived two brain surgeries,I have acquired a few more problems to live with. My brain no longer works very well. My cognitive skills have been damaged, along with my verbal conversations have suffered, To add to this among other problems, I have begun suffering through occasional seizures. How can any woman want to meet or deal with this kind of physical and mental challenge. Then begin to love a man, who can barely understand his own future.

I noticed when girls are young, all they do is go to the mall to buy cloths, makeup and perfume. Have conversations about who is cute, and talk about what there going to wear the next day. Then repeat the process the next day. When they get out of school and get into there late 20′s and early thirty’s and realize that immature mentality doesnt’ work anymore and there not so cute. They go on anti depressants. Is it just me or do other people see a pattern here?

Judging by conversations I have had, and the media, men are driven by big breasts and curves. Is this true? What if a girl has other features such as long legs, but a very small chest? I personally, am naturally a size 6/8. What do you guys love about a woman?